The not so new F word. Been tagged by apu to offer my 2 bit on feminism.
My earliest recollection is a scene in Mary Poppins where the lady of the house campaigns for the right for women to vote. We have come a long way. Or have we? In one not-so-old Rajni movie he says how a woman should behave-something to this effect- "coy and demure".
Made my blood boil !(despite the fact that I am a Rajni fan!) That too when in real life his wife is such an achiever in her own right. Wish censors would take note of such things rather than smoking on screen.
Feminism stands for equal rights and the right to be respected and treated with dignity. Both men and women can be feminists and that should clarify that bra burning is not a necessary step to qualify.
It is the cynics who equate the symbols for the spirit and distort the whole concept.
Years of conditioning can also be changed, slowly but surely. An uncle of mine has always had things done for him at home. He never asked for it to be that way. His wife was the hoem maker and he was a "passive" recipient .
He saw how my father chipped in at my home and decided he could do the same. His wife was stunned. And delighted that a few minutes of "unsolicited" help could go a long way in making her feel more wanted. It truly infused romance into their life.
Today's generation is probably better than the previous one in terms of helping as a matter of course and not making a big show of it. Perhaps because the woman contributes equally to the kitty? Or our mothers & fathers had begun to pave the way?
True Feminism in my opinion would mean saying no to chivalry. It has at its core a gender bias. Also i cringe from women who use coquetry to get their way.
On the other hand, if you like doing something for your mate just go ahead. It does not make you meek or any less of a feminist. You do it for the person - not because he is a man and you are the woman.
And finally do not take shit from anyone- man or woman.