One of my friends, P, who is thirty plus, said recently " I do not know if I even want to have kids"
After two children, it is difficult to be objective about the matter.
But I told her that it was fine to feel that way.
It is better to not have kids, if the only reason for doing so is to adhere to society's requirements...after all,the parents nurture the child not the society- at least largely. And an innocent child cannot be made to feel unwelcome.
It is a decision that the couple has to make and something they will have to live with either way.
Are we ever fully ready to be parents? I do not think so. We also learn parenting along the way. Most of us try it a couple of times even. Some of us even get good at it!
Yes, children bring chaos & responsibility but they also bring unconditional love and laughter
No kids means freedom but can also mean small twinges of regret and lonliness
If you wish to have one later and your biological clock has ticked away?? asked another mutual friend.
P had no answers. I had one suggestion.There are many children in need of love and care. You can always adopt one of them. They will be glad and so will you.
Where do you stand on the matter?