October 11, 2007

Mumbai Musings

Was in Mumbai yesterday on work. Got to go home there briefly and got back to Chennai faster than on a regular work day!

Our neighbour and a close friend of the family had passed away a few days ago. He was very fit and only in his mid 60s. Full of life and beans- he lived well. They have no children but never seemed to want for it.

When you try to console someone words fail and sound so shallow. . . how can you ask them to be strong.... how can we tell them time will heal.... that at least he had a quick painless exit... And that we understand the magnitude of their loss......it is just not possible to imagine ...

Now aunty is alone. She has an elderly mother to keep her company, a dear old lady , who cannot stop wondering why God did not take her away instead. Indeed, why not?

But I am glad aunty is still working and can therefore try and distract herself at least for a while each day.

7 comments:

~nm said...

yes..its true..When you try to console someone words fail and sound so shallow..so true..

And you right said too that good she's working. I remember when my Ma passed away I started staying late at work as home didn't seem the same home ever again!

Fuzzylogic said...

In such moments words fall short to console anyone. Having been through a recent loss myself I know nothing anyone says help but atleast the kind thoughts and gestures go a long way.

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Kalpana said...

It's not easy to console the people who are in loss of someone. One thing which we can do is be quiet at that moment, though we have love for them, and after some days, talk to them. Good thing is she is working, but still loss is loss.

artnavy said...

yes- you are all so right

i sometimes wonder how difficult it must be to relive the pain and narrate the same sequnce of events or memories

or maybe itis catharsis for some.....anyway it just leaves me wondering what I can do to help.....

Alan said...

I don't think the words matter too much. When I lost my dad a few years ago, many people offered their condolences. I don't recall any words, but can I still remember the moments with the people. That's the important thing, for me anyway.

choxbox said...

yup i am also at a loss when something like that happens..

Parul said...

Hello...your post brought back some memories.

What do I say to someone who has lost a near and dear one - this is a question that is asked very often. When I lost my dad a few years ago, many of my friends wouldn't call because 'they didn't know what to say'. The absence hurt more than any badly-worded condolences would have. There is a reason why condolences need to be paid and sometimes just visiting is enough.

Hope your neighbour will find comfort somewhere, somehow.