Why are mothers so tempted to justify when their babies are cranky in a social setting? I was at a wedding yesterday and Anush was as usual having a ball. She was running faster than her nose was. ( yes she had a cold) and I was chasing her around,lest she trips over the video wires.
There were a couple of other kids her age. She went up to them and smiled. I did not want her to pass on hr cold - so I stood guard not letting her get too close. But she was really sweet trying to engage them and saying "paapa" and so on. Neither kid responded. One kid was fidgety and was sucking away at her fingers . The other was generally irritable.
Immediately the parents launched an explanation in both cases. She is teething, not had sleep, scared of crowds, usually a gem and so on.
It set me thinking. In their situation, I would probably do the same or something similar . But as long as the baby is not destructive or disruptive there is no need to explain. We understand. We must. We have our own unpredictable saintly demons - Kadavul paadhi, mirugam paadhi ( as in Alavandaan)
A friend of mine says - "Problem is we think everyone's eyes are on our kid. We feel we are being gauged as parents. Also we see our kids as trophies. And want them to make a great impression/impact. All a an age of 8 or 18 months. Pathetic and self centered of us."
Harsh as it may sound, there is some truth in it. What do you think?